How to know if you love someone still?

This is because knowing true feelings is hard
Just some pointers to think about~

1# Do you think about them all the time~

If the thoughts are more positive than negative then it could be love.

2# If you can be your true self~

around them you're not shy to be open and show the true you. This could be because you're close or because they make you save. Doesn't always mean love, (friends it happens too) but, hints love.

3# Can you share deep emotions~

If you can, and if you feel sorry for the other at sad times, signals love. Not obvious but, is a way to know if they're getting to your head. Also when you can talk to them about your problems and trust them with it shows you a sign of love.

4# Openly say "I LOVE YOU"~

Does saying the 3 words role of the tongue. Do hearing them make you smile and touch your heart. If yes, some form of love is in the air.

5# Questioning life without them~

If you think I'd be better of in anyway without them, your love might be fading. Thinking this (can i do better) is unhealthy. Or if life would be worse off can indicate you love them still.

6# Are you upset when they are~

If seeing the other cry or hurt make you feel sad too, it shows you have deep down feelings for them. (yes friends are like it too). If you just want to hug them and make them feel better love is on the table. But, if you suffer emotional pain until they're happy again...signals of love are there.

7# Communication~

If it's great and constant, love is most likely. If you ignore the person or they ignore you, then weak connection seems to be less love in the air. 

8# Want the same thing in the relationship~

If you both want different things. e.g. one wants to move in together and other doesn't etc

Can cause tension,unfocused love strength.

9# Is the relationship what you've been waiting for~

Leaving you empty inside or fulfilled? (your fairy tail?)

10# Can this person help in future~

Are they just fun to be around or long term..settle down. Thinking they'd be great to have child with doesn't always mean it's someone you strongly love. Future feel bright or not?  Are you with them for the right reasons, not just to please parents, for money or sexual gain...more because they make you feel happier.

11# More concerned of 'others' opinions of them then your own~

Influenced by what others think of your partner? If your truly happy with them you'd not care what others think because they're the best part of your life.

12# The more you know them~

The more you find out the more you like them, or do little habits irritate you? You found out they do something that puts you off them more...like they seem to dissatisfy you then it's not proper love.

13# Waiting for them to change~

You seriously can't change them other than making them shower more or eat better the very little things, and if you want them to change too much...well isn't it clear they're not worth the hassle. If you love someone you'd not wish them to change! simples!

14# Do you question why you love them?

If this is something you do in part of everyday, then you're not madly in love. Sorry. 

Doubting love is a sign you're not with the right person. You'd know if the person was certain of you and right for you. Butterflies, spark inside, a happy feeling when around you etc

15# Do you argue?~

Not little things like they left dirty dishes on the floor...more serious ones as if they're not listening to you ones. Shouting matches etc. 

These are a sign of relationship breakdown. 

16# Is there another person on the cards?~

Meaning are you crushing over another person. If you are in the middle of 2 people that have found a special place in your heart then go for the second one. Honestly if you truly love the 1st person you'd not fallen for the 2nd as the 1st would be perfect even though you care for them. 

17# Are you in the relationship for right/wrong reason~

Is it because you look for to time with them?

Is it down to what they do for you?

Is it because they cheer you up?

Is it due to money?

Is it due to making you feel better?

Is it down to connection and deep conversations you have that are better than with others?

Is it down to pleasing family?

Think why you're in the relationship and if it's for a positive reason that makes you happy then great.
If it's to please others or to get something out of it like sex or free stuff then it's not the kind of relationship that's healthy and possibly not serious love.

I hope these pointers help people confused about there love lives.

If in doubt break it off for a short period of time and see how you miss them if at all.

<3 No relationship is 100% perfect.

Create your own style or this might happen?

The more you come to peer pressure the more you will change to not being the person you were born to be.

Unless you like how they're changing you and feel it will help your life don't feel the need to change your look dramatically to fit in.

True friends will enjoy your company and let you come into their social group however you are.

If you aren't yourself as much as you can be you might miss out on people loving the true you. Or they say they love you e.g. in a relationship and down the line you're dumped when you're true you comes forward,

 as you're more comfortable around them.

being shy..help..annoyance of life.

(my own creation ^^^right  there)

I'm sick of people who are more shy than others bring left out and often picked on. It's hard being shy and wanting to say something. However, thinking what you have to say is going to be thought of as weird or not listened too as you're quiet.

This is my way of saying try and talk to the shy person at school or work. Include them...like if you are having a party don't leave the shy one out as you think they are boring/wont join in.  They mostly need reassurance and to be excepted for themselves to feel more confident.

If you are an extrovert person you are lucky. Being introverted isn't as easy as you think.

I should know. As I am one of those quiet shy people who hide away in the corner feeling like I don't fit in as well as the others.

If you are shy....JUST TRY. Include yourself and if people dislike you for any reason many out there wont. The more you talk to others the more likely, it is one step to not being shy or as shy anymore.Don't hide in the corner or where ever you feel safe. Take a risk.

A lot of  shy people are shy because of fear of being judge or because of the negative reactions from those around them. Or the people they are put with are much louder and out talk the shyer quieter member of the group. e.g. when they do talk they're unheard or talked over. 

It puts the quieter people in a hole. Singles them out as different or often gets them forgotten. 

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SMILE have a nice day and don't reject someone because they are different. Embrace the difference.

Love Advice -to have a good relationship

 My valentine day card I made my boyfriend.

Basically draw a large heart in the middle of the card and fill it with different paper cut out heart shapes. You can sew on the heart crosses for kisses. Then add different shape/size hearts for a stylish effect.

Now on to the Love Advice to have a good relationship:

Quotes of love advice:

~It isn't about having a perfect relationship. It’s about finding someone who will be there through everything without giving up.

~Love is complicated. Every relationship is different. Do whats best for you, not what people tell you to do. You're the one that has to live with or without it.

~If you love someone, be brave enough to tell them, otherwise, be brave enough to watch them be loved by someone else.

~Be with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.

~Be with someone who wants you as much as you want them, love should always be equally divided between two hearts to make one whole relationship.

My sum up of what the quotes mean in my opinion:

No relationship is going to be amazing fairy tale love every moment of the time. But, finding a partner who wont give up on you when life has it's troubling moments, that is how you know they care and want to be there for you and not another factor like money.

You don't have to do what you're told to be happy by family and others but what you feel would improve the welfare of your life. One relationship might like be really lovey dovey and romantic every moment they get and another might enjoy hanging out more as friends going on adventures together.

In the begining of knowing you have a crush you got to tell them otherwise you're going to be unable to ask them out. e.g. they get another bf/gf or they move out the area far away.

To top it off you've got to find a person to date who you fell you can be 100% you with. One who compliments you and is proud of your achievements...you need to do that to who you're going out with too. Be supportive, complimentary and be there when they're sad.

Love shouldn't be about who's better or who love who the most. Equal, honest and compromising to fit both needs of the partnership. You don't want to get your way all the time. e.g. don't pick where to go out every time, or what to eat for dinner. Take it turns..

Above all be loyal and honest about your life and feelings. That's the key to being happy in a relationship.

I also find having a partner who has common interest helpful too. Gives you things to talk about.

Follow this and avoid drama.

Basically what he is saying in the quote is that shouting at someone will not help get your point across. It would only make the situation worse. However, changing the words that you use would make it much more clear to the person you are mad at or debating with. 

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Avoiding drama is all about compromise. Yes you might disagree with someone to the point they make you angry but, at times you have to agree to disagree.

If you think you are better than someone and show it then normally drama starts. It's better to be more helpful to others and not be a show off...even if you are better at sport for example or get better grades.

Insulting others wont help either. Respect others believes, actions, style/image and where they come from. You never know how hard they have life. People tend to hide a lot of themselves and past and taking the mick normally provokes argument and tension. 

Not many people do this but, trying to avoid drama you have to avoid being heavily critical about someone. 

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 Don't poke fun, criticize, insult or get angry and shout at people when you disagree/ try and get your own way. Then you are more likely to avoid a lot of drama in life. 

Even if you dislike how someone is acting you don't need to shout and get all defensive just calmly say to them not to act that way in a way that don't offend anyone. If I make sense.

Advice~If 2 friends you know are fighting.

You have to be patient and think of a way that both your friends can agree to disagree. Not everyone likes the same things. Maybe try and help your friends remember how well they can get along. Life is too short to be miserable and possibly destroying friendship you've had for ages.

Sometimes people need to except their faults in self and others before they fall out.

It can be hard to not try and take a side but they are your friends and if you go for one side for the other might not like you anymore. It can be seen as childish/immature but, its the way the world works.
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If the friends are fighting over a boy/girl they both have a crush on then that is a whole other story.

You have to make them realize that they became friends because they have similar interests and the person they like/fancy is another one of the common interests.
It is perfectly natural for many people to be in love with or be a huge fan of a celebrity. Look at how many teen girls love One Direction for example.

Until one of them asks the person out, neither of them will know if the guy/girl actually fancies them at all. Your friends need to not let the crush come between what used to be a great friendship and still can be if, they come to an understanding that getting in a relationship with another isn't going to take over their life and time will be made for hanging out together.
I know the whole idea of the crush you have being taken away from you by your friend can lead to JEALOUSY. You have three options here:
1- Neither of the friends go out with the guy.
2- wait for the guy to ask either out and in mean time you can both enjoy a common interest.
3- Be happy for the one who gets with the crush. Then go find another to be your next relationship. 
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A fight/argument will finish eventually. Getting involved can sometimes make the argument go on for longer. I suggest being there for both of them and try and show them how they once were brilliant friends.
If they ask for help I think getting them to own up for their wrongs and be the bigger person before damage is done and friendship lost.
Name calling and insulting each other during a disagreement only makes the fire bigger. It's like adding another log to the fire.
I mean it will make the argument go on for longer.

In short, don't take sides, don't get involved with the facts of the argument unless you have clear evidence that one friend is wrong. Also be patient while showing your friends how they actually once got along really great. Could be by looking through old photos, reminiscing about past or going out together and trying to have a good time.  

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Hope I've helped people with this bit of writing.