Just some pointers to think about~
1# Do you think about them all the time~
If the thoughts are more positive than negative then it could be love.
2# If you can be your true self~
around them you're not shy to be open and show the true you. This could be because you're close or because they make you save. Doesn't always mean love, (friends it happens too) but, hints love.
3# Can you share deep emotions~
If you can, and if you feel sorry for the other at sad times, signals love. Not obvious but, is a way to know if they're getting to your head. Also when you can talk to them about your problems and trust them with it shows you a sign of love.
4# Openly say "I LOVE YOU"~
Does saying the 3 words role of the tongue. Do hearing them make you smile and touch your heart. If yes, some form of love is in the air.
5# Questioning life without them~
If you think I'd be better of in anyway without them, your love might be fading. Thinking this (can i do better) is unhealthy. Or if life would be worse off can indicate you love them still.
6# Are you upset when they are~
If seeing the other cry or hurt make you feel sad too, it shows you have deep down feelings for them. (yes friends are like it too). If you just want to hug them and make them feel better love is on the table. But, if you suffer emotional pain until they're happy again...signals of love are there.
7# Communication~
If it's great and constant, love is most likely. If you ignore the person or they ignore you, then weak connection seems to be less love in the air.
8# Want the same thing in the relationship~
If you both want different things. e.g. one wants to move in together and other doesn't etc
Can cause tension,unfocused love strength.
9# Is the relationship what you've been waiting for~
Leaving you empty inside or fulfilled? (your fairy tail?)
10# Can this person help in future~
Are they just fun to be around or long term..settle down. Thinking they'd be great to have child with doesn't always mean it's someone you strongly love. Future feel bright or not? Are you with them for the right reasons, not just to please parents, for money or sexual gain...more because they make you feel happier.
11# More concerned of 'others' opinions of them then your own~
Influenced by what others think of your partner? If your truly happy with them you'd not care what others think because they're the best part of your life.
12# The more you know them~
The more you find out the more you like them, or do little habits irritate you? You found out they do something that puts you off them more...like they seem to dissatisfy you then it's not proper love.
13# Waiting for them to change~
You seriously can't change them other than making them shower more or eat better the very little things, and if you want them to change too much...well isn't it clear they're not worth the hassle. If you love someone you'd not wish them to change! simples!
14# Do you question why you love them?
If this is something you do in part of everyday, then you're not madly in love. Sorry.
Doubting love is a sign you're not with the right person. You'd know if the person was certain of you and right for you. Butterflies, spark inside, a happy feeling when around you etc
15# Do you argue?~
Not little things like they left dirty dishes on the floor...more serious ones as if they're not listening to you ones. Shouting matches etc.
These are a sign of relationship breakdown.
16# Is there another person on the cards?~
Meaning are you crushing over another person. If you are in the middle of 2 people that have found a special place in your heart then go for the second one. Honestly if you truly love the 1st person you'd not fallen for the 2nd as the 1st would be perfect even though you care for them.
17# Are you in the relationship for right/wrong reason~
Is it because you look for to time with them?
Is it down to what they do for you?
Is it because they cheer you up?
Is it due to money?
Is it due to making you feel better?
Is it down to connection and deep conversations you have that are better than with others?
Is it down to pleasing family?
Think why you're in the relationship and if it's for a positive reason that makes you happy then great.
If it's to please others or to get something out of it like sex or free stuff then it's not the kind of relationship that's healthy and possibly not serious love.
I hope these pointers help people confused about there love lives.
If in doubt break it off for a short period of time and see how you miss them if at all.
<3 No relationship is 100% perfect.
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